Not long ago, a client mentioned that because of the way I talk and seem to handle problems, she figured I must have amazing people supporting me in my life. I told her yes, and no—and that I am my greatest support.
Yes, I have some amazing friends. And yes, I am getting help with my son’s disability. However, I am the one who knows best what I really need, and I am the one who makes the final decision to give it to myself.
We talked last week about supporting yourself, and I want to bring this to your attention again. YOU are the person who knows what you need most and you are the ONLY person who can really give you permission to accept it.
Many people ask me what I do to support myself, so let me tell you a couple of things that I do every day. First, I start my day with a couple of minutes of “me time” (I talked about this a couple of newsletters back). I make sure I start my day off filling myself up with a little self care.
I also make sure I take a couple of yoga classes a week, meditate, watch a couple of silly shows after my son goes to bed, take time throughout the day to check in and breathe, and consistently pay attention to what I need and do my best to fit it in. Most of all, I take care of my mindset and make sure I take at least a three minutes EVERY DAY for self care.
I have been mediating for a long time, doing yoga, practicing breath work, and other calming techniques. I’m an energy worker, an attraction specialist, and a coach. I have trained myself to care for my body and mind for a long time. By the way, much of what I have learned over the last decade is what I am teaching in “The Art of Self Care as a Parent” program.
My point is, I was not naturally like this. It took training, support, and a commitment on my part to lead my life differently and to start supporting myself.
Moms and Dads, one of the best things you can teach your kids is how to care for themselves. They will not have to work at it as hard as we have had to, if you teach them when they are young. And the best way to teach them is to show them how you do it for yourself.