Only my private clients know this, but my son was recently diagnosed with an inoperable brain tumor.
The past two months have been an emotional roller coaster for both of us. It’s been a time filled with doctor visits, huge medical decisions, scary but real statistics, and lots of emotions! It’s been one of those hard times that there’s no way out of, only a way through. It has also given me an to decide how to work through it.
Initially, I have to admit, I cried a lot. Then, I started increasing my self care, and asking myself deep questions like, “What do I really want? What is most important to me? How do I want to handle this? What feels right to me?”
When major life-changing events like this happen, it is important to not just go through the motions, but to really sit down and discover what we want and need. And then, to find a way to honor the answers.
The answer for me was to restructure my business, open up my schedule, slow down our lives, and make room for more togetherness time. So, I am in the process of moving to a much smaller town, I have increased my support from others, have put self care as a even greater priority in my life, and have decreased my number of private clients so I can be with my son more.
I know for certain that the very most important thing to me is to be with my son and support him in his healing. I also know that in order to do that, I needed to get in touch with what I need the next year to look like, and how I am going to make time for self care. So, I have come up with a solid plan, that also allows room for any bumps that may occur. I have boosted my support system, and made many changes that feel good to me.
By the way, this is one of the ways that you know you are showing up for yourself and achieving self care–you DEEPLY feel good about it.
Since I am not planning on doing as many free classes for awhile, I have decreased my personal clients. I am sad in a way to do this, as I love working with and helping my clients; but it is what I need to do in order to get in touch with what matters to me most. It is also still very important to me to give to and help other people, and so to thank you for reading my newsletter and seeking to improve your parenting, I will be giving you a gift in each newsletter throughout the month of December. That’s four gifts of self care for you.
You guessed it–I am going to participate in the 12 Days of Christmas/giving to myself theme that I talked about in last week’s newsletter. Yes, I sing the song a lot these days, because it is so catchy, makes me feel good, and is fun! I need things right now that lift my spirits and make my life a little happier and smoother.
I don’t want to overwhelm you with emails, so instead of 12 gifts, I will just do one each week, which I’ll include at the end of each newsletter this month. Each will be a small gift of self care that I hope will help you make this holiday season one that is filled with love, peace, and joy.