- The Art of Self Care as a Parent -

The first step to happier parenting starts with you and your level of self care.
Is self care a priority in your life?

If not, would you like to learn how you can take better care of yourself in just three minutes a day?

To help you be a happier parent, I have created a new program: The Art of Self Care as a Parent.
Through it, you will learn techniques, strategies, and gain tools that will allow you to feel more balanced, in control of your life, and happier. As a result, you will be a better parent!


Through this program, you will learn:

  • How to make self care a priority
  • How to fit it into your busy schedule
  • How just three minutes a day can have a huge impact on your happiness
  • How you can show up as the parent you want to be
  • How to increase your connection with your kids
  • How you can feel more balanced
  • How to reduce anxiety and guilt
  • How to feel happier!

Program overview:

  • My commitment to you is to guide you through monthly exercises that will allow you to shift into being the parent you want to be.
  • These are exercises and techniques that I use personally and have taught many people with great results.
  • Because ongoing support is so important while you are developing a new way of being, this is a year-long program, enabling you to be solidly supported on your journey to becoming more conscious, relaxed, balanced, and HAPPY!
  • This program respects your time and money. Here at Happy Parents and Kids, we know that both are precious to you!
  • Each of the techniques that you will learn will take only three minutes a day, and the cost for the entire program is only

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Back to Basics and Season Transitions

Have you ever had one of those days, nights, or even months where you have just had enough? Where you are overwhelmed, sleep-deprived, and feel desperate?

I used to have nights, weeks, and months like that all the time. My son’s behavior was so out of control that he needed me all the time, and neither of us could get much sleep because he was up most of the night.

What do you do when you have had enough? You are exhausted, and you know something needs to change, but you may not know what.

You go back to basics. You breathe. You learn techniques to nurture your mind and body. Breathing calms you. Getting your mind and body calm generates compassion toward yourself, which then enables you to bring compassion into your interaction with your kids.

It’s okay if you are exhausted. But, if you are, pay attention to what you need. Do you need more self care time? Do you need more support?

In order to get a clear answer to these questions, go back to breathing. Sit, relax, and just breathe. Allow your breath to get deeper and more relaxed with each inhale and exhale. Allow yourself to be calm. Allow yourself to feel the rise and fall of your breath. Allow yourself to feel and sense what you need.

P.S.
If you are feeling desperate for something to change, and are not yet part of the Art of Self Care as a Parent program, please check it out. Over the course of this program I teach you how to relieve overwhelm and exhaustion and start being the parent you want to be.

Connection Time – There is Still Time Left

Summer may be winding down, but there is still time left to fit in the activities that you have been wanting to do with your kids.

Take a day off if you need to, and schedule the activity you’ve been wishing for. I’m not just saying this, I’ve done this myself. I am taking this week off to enjoy activities such as spending the day at the splash park—THE WHOLE DAY!—with my son. I’ve also scheduled a day at the beach, which is only one hour away, and some other activities that I wanted to do, that were on my to do list, but just have not happened yet.

I knew that there was a part of me that would regret not doing some of these things, and since I make sure I live my life knowing I have done all I could, I scheduled a “fun week.” In fact, I wrote this article last week, so that this week I could really just BE WITH MY SON.

I know you are busy.  So am I. As you might recall,  I have a new program starting in a couple weeks. My son will be going to a new school. I do not have time to take off. So why did I do it? Because when I checked in with my core values, I knew that I really needed this fun time—and so did my son. Before school starts, we needed to get out of our  routine and just play.

I encourage you to do the same. Fit in as much time for fun as you can. I promise you that it will be worthwhile.

Support – Supporting Self by Asking for Help

Not long ago, a client mentioned that because of the way I talk and seem to handle problems, she figured I must have amazing people supporting me in my life. I told her yes, and no—and that I am my greatest support.

Yes, I have some amazing friends. And yes, I am getting help with my son’s disability. However, I am the one who knows best what I really need, and I am the one who  makes the final decision to give it to myself.

We talked last week about supporting yourself, and I want to bring this to your attention again. YOU are the person who knows what you need most and you are the ONLY person who can really give you permission to accept it.

Many people ask me what I do to support myself, so let me tell you a couple of things that I do every day. First, I start my day with a couple of minutes of “me time” (I talked about this a couple of newsletters back). I make sure I start my day off filling myself up with a little self care. 

I also make sure I take a couple of yoga classes a week, meditate, watch a couple of silly shows after my son goes to bed, take time throughout the day to check in and breathe, and consistently pay attention to what I need and do my best to fit it in. Most of all, I take care of my mindset and make sure I take at least a three minutes EVERY DAY for self care.

I have been mediating for a long time, doing yoga, practicing breath work, and other calming techniques. I’m an energy worker, an attraction specialist, and a coach. I have trained myself to care for my body and mind for a long time. By the way, much of what I have learned over the last decade is what I am teaching in “The Art of Self Care as a Parent” program.

My point is, I was not naturally like this. It took training, support, and a commitment on my part to lead my life differently and to start supporting myself.

Moms and Dads, one of the best things you can teach your kids is how to care for themselves.  They will not have to work at it as hard as we have had to, if you teach them when they are young. And the best way to teach them is to show them how you do it for yourself.

Connection Time – Connecting to What Feels Nourishing

This week, still on the topic of your self care, my connection activity for you is to notice throughout the course of a week, couple of days or one day what feels nourishing to you.

What I want you to do is to dedicate your awareness to noticing times when you feel nourished as you go about your day. I suggest you take notes each time it happens, and jot down what the activity was, what you were doing, what happened, who you were with, and anything else relevant.

Put those notes together, make a list, and post it. Now you have a guide that you can refer to when you need a bit of TLSC (Tender Loving Self Care).

Happy parenting!

Support – The Relationship That Matters Most

The only person you really need to hear from about how great you are, is you. The appreciation and love of others is important, but if you do not deeply feel love for yourself, you simply cannot fully receive others’ love and support.

This is one of the reasons I say that when you get up in the morning, you need to fill yourself up first. Start your day by taking care of you. As we talked about in the previous newsletter, this does not mean that you ignore the needs of your child and just take off. There is a way to fit in everything that matters. How you do that may be the same each day, or may be different depending on the day. But it is essential that you can tell yourself how important you are, and back it up with self care action.

Feeling balanced and enjoying life starts with how you care for yourself. The best way to show yourself that you care, is to do something nourishing for yourself first thing in the morning. Start your day by first telling yourself that you are worth it, and then, start giving to those around you.

Self care is support for yourself. Those of you who are looking for more support in your life, start by supporting yourself. Show up for yourself first thing in the morning. Do something nourishing for yourself, even before you get out of bed, and see how it changes your energy for the day.

Email me and let me know how it goes.

Connection Time – How To Pick a Self Care Activity That Works For You

People often ask me: How do I know what is the best and most efficient self care activity?

The best activity really depends on you. Sometimes a bit of trial and error needs to occur. Often I give clients many different things to do and then have them try them out and compare them.

By trying many different things, you learn what really FEELS the best. FEELING good is the name of the game when it comes to self care.

So, just give something a try and see how it FEELS.

Remember, if you need help I am just a phone call or email away.

Enjoy!

Self Care – Making Time to Care for Yourself

Many people tell me that they don’t have time for self care. They are too busy, their kids need constant attention, they are driving back and forth in the car running errands or taking their kids to activities, their spouse works all of the time, they are a single parent …  the list goes on.

Okay, I get it. I really do.

I know that you are busy, and those in your life need you.  However, you can get more done and give more to others if you stop and take care of yourself, even if it is only for three minutes a day. Self care does not have to take a long time, and can fit into any lifestyle.

First, you have to commit to caring for yourself and making self care a priority. That means making yourself a priority.  Then, you find a way to do it.

Here are a few  ideas:

  • Sit in the car while your kids are at an activity, and practice your self care activity.
  • Pick a breathing exercise that you enjoy, and do it while you are driving.
  • Stop and take a couple of deep breaths before you go pick up your kids.

These are just starter ideas. Come up with your own, and be creative. What’s important is that you start taking better care of yourself.

If you are having difficulty finding time, making a commitment to yourself, or following through, please  reach out to me. I would love to help you take better care of the most important person in your life—YOU!

Happy Parenting!

Connection Time – Rekindle a Childhood Love

What was something you loved to do as a kid that you have not done for awhile?

I want to share with you one of the things I used to do. I would lie down and look up at the clouds. I would make up stories about the clouds or just name shapes, or animals, or whatever I felt they looked like.

Recently, I started doing this with my son. Not surprisingly, he loves it! First, it is a nice and low key activity, which we both LOVE! Second, it is also really fun.

If you have young kids, try this with them. Lie on a blanket, look up at the beautiful open sky, and see what type of wonderful stories you can create. If this is not appropriate to do with your kids, then why not try it yourself?

Happy summer!

Showing Up For Yourself

Something that you may not know about me is that my son has special needs. He often has a hard time regulating his emotions and his behavior can be fairly unpredictable.

This often makes my time and interaction with him stressful. It is hard on me emotionally, and also physically.

Why am I sharing this with you?

Because I know that you can’t always drop what you are doing and put yourself first. I know that your kids need your attention, and that when they are young or have special needs, to a certain extent you have to be responsive to their needs in a timely manner. I also know that it’s easy to fall into the trap of always giving and responding instead of taking care of yourself. That is why I am focusing so much on self care this month and have created a program to help you care for yourself more.

Just like you, my first tendency is to take care of my son, and next our dog, and lastly to take care of myself. However, I know that this does not work in the long term, and this way of thinking and being will deplete your energy. I know, because I have done it.

The bottom line is that you have to take care of yourself. You just do!

Now, how much time you spend on self care depends on your schedule, and it really may not be that much time, but it is vital that you give yourself the message every day that you love you, and that you do something nurturing just for you. Please do this for yourself.

If this is hard for you to do, or you are having difficulty finding time, then please call me or email me. I can help you to make you a priority and find room in your schedule to take care of the most important priority in your life, YOU!

Happy Parenting!